Self Help: Quick Fix Suggestions
SELF HELP QUICK FIX SUGGESTIONS
The Use of Dreaming Eye Movement and
Acceptance of Emotions in the Body in Processing Emotions
In shamanic training, students learn to process strong emotions by moving the
eyes back and forth identically to the natural eye movements made in dreaming sleep.
Psychologists discovered a similar phenomena and gave it the name EMDR, or eye
movement desensitization response.
When a Triggered Person [TP] experiences strong feelings and does not have
access to an opportunity to do a full Trauma Healing session, living the
questions is recommended. Ask yourself the following questions: "What is
happening right now?" and, "Can I be with it?"*
There is nothing unworthy of acceptance. If something is, it is. Not to accept
it is to live in denial, to remain trapped in resistance by our own choosing.
To accept something because it exists is not at all the same as making it
"okay." Acceptance is the allowing and embracing of all experience. It’s all
about staying open, receptive, committing ourselves to continual surrender.
Surrender, we come to learn, is like a muscle. The more we work it, the
stronger it grows. The stronger it grows, the more present we become. Living
the questions, it turns out, is a practical invitation to bliss.*
To experience an emotion, place your attention directly on the sensation it
produces in your body. Keep your attention on that sensation until it either
dissipates or changes. Slow down and go deeper into the sensation.*
1. Remember that the emotion is located in the body and identify where the
tension of the emotion is, such as in the gut for example and 2. Accept the
emotion instead of resisting it, analyzing it, or acting it out. The feelings
may shift to other places in the body, in which case the attention goes to the
new location(s). Accept the feelings in the new location(s).
This often is enough to bring relief in a minute or so.
If further relief is desired, use of side to side eye movement, like the eyes do
in dreaming sleep, while feeling the emotion will also usually bring fast
relief. Keep the head looking forward and move the eyes from left to right, to
left to right, over and over while feeling the emotion. This can be done with
your eyes open or closed.
*Reference and recommended reading: The One Thing Holding You Back, and
Unconditional Bliss by Raphael Cushnir
Comparison between ‘Self Help Quick Fix’
And Complete Trauma Healing Process with Facilitator
In the Self Help Quick Fix Process, feelings are located as sensations in the
body, sensations such as stress or tension. Attention is placed on these
sensations in the body and the feelings causing them are accepted. Acceptance of
feelings, instead of resistance or acting out destructively, results in
therapeutic changes in the feelings themselves, as documented by Raphael Cushnir
in his series of books. In addition, the use of dreaming eye movement, moving
the eyes left to right to left to right, over and over again, while feeling
whatever feelings are present, also brings quick change to the feelings
themselves, exactly like eye movement does each night in dreaming sleep.
Since these two proven techniques bring about emotional relief and change
quickly, why use the complete Trauma Healing Process at all?
In the complete Trauma Healing Process long standing subconscious anxieties,
painful memories, and negative beliefs about life that erupt in extremely
painful feelings in present time situations are permanently healed. An
integration of the previously wounded and limited personality self with the
unlimited divine self occurs.
50 years of research in various scientific fields agrees with ancient sciences
of yoga: the brain speaks to itself in visual images.
In an experiment with subjects holding thermometers in each hand, being told to
make one hand hotter than the other, no difference in temperature was recorded
no matter how hard the subjects ‘tried’ and no matter what verbal commands they
gave their hands. When told to imagine a hot potato in one hand and a piece of
ice in the other, however, the hands registered different temperatures.
It is important, in healing painful memories, to remember that a memory is
composed of 3 things. This is known as PET = a still photo of the memory or
visual image, emotions, and thoughts. To effectively heal a painful memory, all
of these three components must all change.
This is done by first identifying the present time prevailing painful emotions,
and then using this constellation of emotions to identify prior times in life
when this same constellation was activated, then narrowing down which of the
memories has been subconsciously activated to cause present time emotional
distress. This memory is termed ‘the infected wound’.
The next step is to name this memory, determine the subjective units of distress
being experienced from it [SUDS} and identify what negative beliefs about
reality and life came from going through this experience. This is followed by
identifying the positive beliefs about life and reality that came from this.
This process causes a deep inner focus on another time. It is a mild trance
state that gets deeper and deeper. It is important for the helping person, the
facilitator, to not to break this trance by interrupting the process. The only
input from the facilitator is to gently guide the trance state deeper when
nonverbal cues are given by the triggered person. For example, when the
triggered person [TP] has a far away look, is in silence, or has the eyes
closed, they are in deep inner processing. This is when the healing is taking
place and should not be interrupted. When the TP needs help, he/she will look up
at the facilitator for instructions on the next step to take.
The step of identifying the negative beliefs reveals the thoughts that must
change for emotional relief to be permanent. [The positive belief list actually
begins the healing process, of healing the victim self image.]
The next step is to identify a still image, a ‘photograph’ of the memory, a
still snapshot that represents who, what, and when of the memory. Describe the
photograph in detail. This is the visual image that must change for emotional
relief to be permanent.
At this point the triggered person begins a tell/retell process, alternating
between telling the memory from beginning to end out loud, then reliving it
silently, then out loud, then silently, over and over until the SUDS reaches
zero [subjective units of distress, from 0 to 10 where 0 is no distress and 10
is the highest].
In the tell/retell process there are times when the triggered person [TP] will
express a question, or a desire to change something, or to express something to
someone else in the memory. At this point it is important to gently suggest,
guide the TP to actively carry out this desire in the mind’s eye, reporting what
happens when this is done.
For example, in one session the TP said, "I do not think that my mother wanted
me to be born, I do not think that she wanted her pregnancy to end." It was
suggested that she silently ask her mother about this and see what her mother
replied. After a long silence with eyes closed, she opened her eyes and reported
that her mother explained to her that being pregnant had made her, the mother,
feel needed and important, and that she was very afraid of how she would feel if
she gave birth. This fear had made the birth several weeks over term, and
horribly painful for both mother and child. The TP then went on to forgive and
comfort her mother in her mind’s eye, crying tears of relief while embracing her
mother in love and forgiveness. This powerful healing image effectively rewrote
her previously expressed negative beliefs that those who love her hold her back
and that life is very painful. Because of this, before this healing session she
had never been able to form close ties with anyone in a loving committed
relationship. At this point the negative thoughts about reality have changed and
the feelings have also changed..
By taking the visual image of this embrace, and merging it with the original
still photo of the hospital room full of pain in which she was born, a beautiful
resolution image emerged of a joyful and happy birth. This step, merging the
final healing image with the original still photo, and watching them merge into
one healed image, is the final step of healing the original visual image. Now
all three elements of the memory have changed = the visual image, the emotions,
and the thoughts.
Dr. Schlosser’s clinical research, as director of the PTSD clinic at the VA
Medical Center in Tuskegee, Alabama, spanning 6 years treating combat veterans
with PTSD and later with civilians, has shown through follow up assessments that
these three elements must change for emotional relief of traumatic memories to
Below is the Trauma Healing form. Use when facilitating an emotional healing session. Print out and make copies. Leave the open spaces to have room to write out the answers. Print on one side of the paper only so that the back sides can be used for additional writing if needed. Feel free to share all of this with others.
[Note: When working with military personnel, it may be necessary to integrate the caring self [pre military programming self] with the combat self. This may be necessary before feelings are accessable for healing. If the traumatized person has a difficult time accessing emotions, please refer to handouts in workbook addressing this.]
Questions to ask in a Trauma Healing
1. What are your suds? What is your distress level?
Subjective Units of Distress Scale = SUDS
On a scale of 0 to 10, where 0 is no distress and 10 is maximum emotional
Write down suds here_______:
1. If you were to really get into this upset, how high would your suds
Write this number down here:_______
1. What are you feeling now? Write down list of feeling words here [20
approximately. Give TP [triggered person] plenty of time to be silent and
go within to check in with feelings. If they say one or two feelings words,
such as: angry, betrayed, and then look at you, read back the words and
then say, "Go within and see what other feelings you have." Don’t
interrupt their silences. These silent times are when the most
important inner work is being done. Keep them doing this until you have at
least 20 feeling words.
1. Read back feeling word list. Ask, "When have you felt this
combination of feelings before?"
Make list of memories that trauma clearing person remembers. [Need approximately
5 memories of times he or she has felt this way before]. Write them here:
1. Start with the first memory, and repeat with each one in the list.
"If you had a magic wand and could magically heal all the feelings
associated with this memory, what would it do to your overall suds? Write
this number down next to each memory.
The one with the greatest lowering effect of overall suds is the memory you want to clear.
1. Ask the TP [triggered person] to give this memory a name or title.
Write it down.
Now ask, "How long will it take you to tell me this memory from start to
finish?" Write down the number of minutes. _______
1. The next step is to then ask, "When you went through this
emotional experience, what negative ideas and beliefs about life , about
the nature of reality, came from this? What negative ideas did you start believing?"
Write down list of negative ideas here:
(Typical examples: The people I trust the most betray me the most. I cannot
trust anyone. I am not loved. I am not safe.)
8. Read back the list of negative ideas. Now ask, "What positive ideas about
reality did you get from going through this trauma?"
[Note: Usually TP will say that there are not any positive ideas. Ask them to go
within and find at least three. (Typical examples: "Well, I survived." "I was
strong and got through it." "Somehow I learned to depend on myself." "A higher
power protected me.")
9. Stillphoto: Now ask the TP to pretend that he or she has a scrapbook of their
life. Ask them to describe the photograph of this trauma. Describe where, what
time of day, lighting, furniture or room or place, who was there, ect . Be sure
that they describe the scene, but do not let them start telling the trauma yet.
Write down the description of scene here:
10. Now tell TP to tell you out loud the entire memory from beginning to
end. (DO NOT INTERRUPT ANDDO NOT OFFER ADVICE. The healing process is within
the TP, and their attention must stay within. Any interruptions, no matter how
well intentioned, will break their process and concentration.) As they tell you,
write it down here:
Note: if at any time in the tell-retell sequence they make a comment expressing
something that they wish could have happened, guide them to go ahead and do this
in their imagination. For example: TP says, "I wish I could have [I should
have] told my father [buddy, friend, wife] _____________________[that I loved
them, that they should stop, that I am not going to take this any more]. Tell
them to take plenty of time to do this and to pay close attention to what the
reaction is from the other person. Remember that brainwave patterns in reliving
feelings are similar to having a dream, and that interaction with the memory,
just as interaction in a dream, causes deep changes in the psyche. In this case
it is a spontaneous healing image bursting from the deepest levels of the inner
This applies also to a spontaneous need to pray, or ask from help from a higher
source. Have them go ahead and do this in their imagination. [See book:
Remembering Our Home by Sheila F. Linn, William Emerson, Dennis Linn and Mathew
Linn. Available through Amazon.com for documentation and explanation of this
These processes, of course, create healing images in the mind. These healing
images are very important. A memory is composed of 3 things. This is known as
PET = a still photo of the memory or visual image, emotions, and thoughts. All
three must change for the trauma to be permanently healed.
The final image is called the resolution image. This is the image that the TP
will remember of this memory in the future.
11. Now ask the TP to remember the entire memory again silently. Wait patiently
while they do so. Remember that any upset, crying, anger. is good. Have Kleenex
on hand to give them for tears. Have a pillow on hand to muffle their screams of
anger and rage, if necessary. When they are finished, ask them what their
suds are now. Write this number down here:_______
12. Now ask the TP to go through the entire memory out loud again from beginning
to end. It is not necessary for them to repeat anything that they have already
said, they can if they want to, or they can just say out loud new stuff that
they are now remembering as they go through the memory. Either way is OK.
Ask TP what their SUDs are. Write it down here._____
The SUDS, subjective units of distress scale, may go up or down, either way is OK.
Sometimes in reliving a painful memory, the SUDS can spike up as long suppressed information is accessed.
Write it down here as they talk:
13. Now ask the TP to remember the entire memory again silently. Ask what their
suds are now. Write this number down here:_______
14. Now ask the TP to go through the entire memory out loud again from beginning
to end. Write it down here as they talk:
15. Now ask the TP to remember the entire memory again silently. Ask what their
suds are now. Write this number down here:__________
16. Now ask the TP to go through the entire memory out loud again from beginning
to end. Write this down here:
Ask TP what their SUDS are now. It should be going down fairly consistantly at this point.
Write it down here._____
[During tell-retell, the TP gets new insights into why the trauma happened in
the first place. There will be insights into what was going on with the other
people in the trauma. Compassion and understanding for self and others will
begin to appear. Images of healing will spontaneously arise often at these
times. For example, the patient could say, "My father was worried about
supporting us, and he was acting out his rage and frustration about this and
really didn't mean to act so bad toward us. He really loved us deep down. I see
him turning to me and wanting forgiveness and understanding. I see it in his
eyes." At this point suggest that the TP tell the father whatever he feels in
response to this.
These insights are called ‘healing images’. Be sure to write these healing
17. Ask them to remember it silently again. Then ask, "What is your suds?"
Write this number down here:__________
Keep doing this process: silently and out loud, until suds get down to 0. Be
careful to write down insights and healing images.
If at any point the TP gets stuck at 1 or 2, ask them what is keeping their
suds at 1 or 2?
Ask them to scan their body for any tension. Ask them to go within the body
wherever they find tension and ask what the tension wants to say to them. Ask
them to put their hands over this area and say to it, "Soften and flow, soften
and flow, soften and flow. If the energy moves to another part of the body,
repeat this process.
This should take care of it and bring the suds down to 0. If it doesn’t ask them
to find whatever other tension there is in the body and to pretend that this
area has a mouth and can talk. Ask TP to respond to the tension and dialogue
back and forth until tension is resolved. [Example: "I am tense in my gut." Ask
them to ask the gut what message it has for them. Example: "My gut says that I
must learn to depend on myself".]
18. Ask the TP to take the final healing image and push it into the original
still photo [Number 9 above.] In other words, the TP will take the two images,
the original still photo and the final healing image and merge them together.
Give TP plenty of time to do this. Don’t interrupt. Wait until TP looks up to
you for a prompting. Then ask the TP to describe what happened to the two images
when he or she merged them together. Write it down here:
This final image is called THE RESOLUTION IMAGE. This is the image that the TP
will remember of this memory in the future.
19. Now ask the TP, "What words go with this memory now?" Write down the words
20. Ask = "What positive ideas go with this memory now?"
Write down here:
21. Ask = "How does clearing this change the way you feel about yourself now?"
22. Ask ="How does clearing this change the way you will behave in your life
23. HEALING BUBBLE: Right after the clearing, the person who just completed the
process goes into "The Healing Bubble." The TP is in a zone of silence.
They are still in a mild trance state, moving between past time and present time.
They are doing very important and deep inner integration of the 'new' self. Every
effort should be made to avoid confronting them, not bringing up loaded issues,
or introducing stressful choices at this time. The TP needs space, silence and
alone time for 2 hours to 6 hours or for days or for as long as 2 weeks. The TP
will let you know when they are ready for ordinary conversation.
Instruct the TP to be very careful and private for a few days while the psyche
integrates the change. Explain that the change in the subconscious and body is
like scar tissue, it is very delicate and tender now and will take a while to
firm up. Instruct them to NOT get involved in other people’s problems or issues,
and to protect themselves emotionally. It is very easy to get retriggered during
this time, they are very vulnerable. They must promise to protect themselves for
as long as it takes to integrate.